Put aside any religious notions and you’ll find there is a ton of wisdom in the Bible; wisdom that any human being can live by. What’s on my mind this evening is Matthew 7:1-3 “Judge not, that ye be not judged, for what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged: and what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”
Think about this, a lot of our fears and insecurities come from our fear that we are being judged by others. I was talking to my friend Carol today. We were chewing the fat about performance anxiety. One of the things that came up was about how so many people are petrified of public speaking or even speaking in front of a group of people they know. The most likely cause of this anxiety is the fear of being judged. And the reason we believe people are judging us is because we secretly judge other people when they are speaking in front of the group. For example.
Now, I’m not talking heavy handed moralistic judgement, I mean the simple stuff like passing comment in your head about what someone is wearing, or their hairstyle, or the way they speak. Since we know that we do it, when we stand up in front of group, we imagine that every single person in the room is doing what we do when we’re in the audience!
A simple way to squash this anxiety is to stop judging other people. The more judgements you can let go of, the better you will feel about yourself and the less anxiety you will feel in the presence of others. Accept people openly for who they are. Not to get all cliché-ish on you, but adjust your thinking to embrace the idea of ‘to each his or her own’ and ‘live and let live.’ What do you care about the colour of that person’s hair or the fact that they are wearing “jeepers” instead of Chuck Taylors? So what if they live a different lifestyle than you do or hold a set of beliefs that seem alien to you.
Focus on being who you are, that is enough. And if other people want to judge you, who cares? That’s their hang-up and a waste of their time. Lighten your burden by letting go of judgement.
Anyway, it’s a Friday evening, I should be chilling out with my feet propped up and a beer in my hand! I best get on that now. I’m feeling mighty parched!
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